When I first returned to France from the States, I was really surprised at the level of cynicism that I encountered. And since one of my favorite past times is to look up words and their meanings, I went straight to merriam-webster.com to make sure that I totally understood the concept. Under ‘cynical,’ I found the following definition (interestingly enough, it happens to be one of the top 10 most frequently looked-up words on M-W.com):
1: contemptuously distrustful of human nature and motives
2: based on or reflecting a belief that human conduct is motivated primarily by self-interest
Then I decided to look up ‘sarcasm’ in an effort to be clear on the difference between the two.
1: a sharp and often satirical or ironic utterance designed to cut or give pain
2: a mode of satirical wit depending for its effect on bitter, caustic, and often ironic language that is usually directed against an individual
Then I figured I might as well look up ‘irony’ too:
1: the use of words to express something other than and especially the opposite of the literal meaning
After that, I was even more confused. What exactly was the difference between the three? I always thought that I liked sarcasm but I have never been sarcastic with the intention to ‘cut or give pain.’ So maybe I confused sarcasm with irony. But I am pretty sure that I understand very clearly what irony is… For example, my ex-husband said he wanted a divorce because he did not think he was meant for marriage. The day I left the courthouse and called to let him know that we were officially divorced, he told me about this girl he had just met. He proposed less than 6 months later… Now that’s irony, isn’t it? I am not even so sure any more… But yes, that was pretty ironic!
So it would seem that ‘cynicism’ and ‘sarcasm’ are both used with the intention of mocking or hurting another person while’ irony’ is not so malevolent and is mostly used for humorous or rhetorical effect. My conclusion: bye bye sarcasm and cynicism! I just want to have fun, and most certainly not at the expense of others!